Focusing on what you want and interpreting the events around you in the most empowering manner are the first steps to mastering the world and circumstances around you. It’s the first step toward achieving what you want.
It’s also an important part of relating with others. We don’t wear buttons that others can push. Our buttons exist only in our minds, and we are the sole operator. Do you want others to control your confidence level, your mood and your results, or would you rather be in charge? It starts with having an “in charge” vs. victim mindset.
Ask these questions whenever you feel yourself getting worked up by a situation or a person:
- What do I want to focus on? (make it something that you want vs. what you don’t want)
- What does it mean? (make it the most positive possible interpretation and don’t try to mind read others)
- Now, what do I want to do about it? (make your action step decision a thoughtful process so that you don’t react, you respond)
Remember, the quality of your life depends on the quality of your questions. Ask good ones.